"The beginning of love is to let others be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them into our own image."
- Thomas Merton

Couples Approach

       I approach counseling with Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy and Attachment Work.  Differences in personality or perception may have pushed you away from from your partner. Couples counseling helps you explore these differences to build a bridge of compassion and understanding. Change can then occur as you and your partner negotiate solutions to your conflicts. 
        Relationships are designed to meet important needs. When your needs are neglected or unmet, you tend to feel unsatisfied.  Ineffective attachment styles, typically learned from early life, are explored to understand patterns of anxiety or avoidance that block your needs from being met. Attachment work can help achieve workable solutions to find ways to satisfy your needs. Contact Carlos Mendoza, MA, LPC for more information or to schedule an appointment.
You can improve your communication with your partner to enhance mutual understanding.  Couples counseling can provide you with essential tools and skills so you feel heard.
You can discover solutions to your relationship problems and concerns. Couples counseling can offer you strategies to reach a common ground in the midst of your differences. 
  You may desire greater intimacy with your partner. Couples counseling can help you reestablish feelings of closeness and support within your relationship.